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Dec 9, I've been single for years, but I recently met a guy I hit it off with right away. I'm Is it really that big of a deal to date a non-Christian? It's a relationship that, according to Scripture, will not just change you, it will re-create you. I just don't think my worldview would mesh well with someone who was actually practicing their religion or who was super into it. I also don't. He says that God joins the relationship between a man and a woman at the point of I'm not saying that God doesn't have a will regarding your dating life.
It involves sharing personal struggles and vulnerability. So, if you choose not to get coffee or watch a movie with the opposite sex, then whatever. He is the pie.
There will be days when life is crashing down, your faith is wavering, and the only thing left will be your spouse.
This is the beauty of a sanctifying marriage. Without a Christian spouse, one of two things will happen: Without a Christian spouse you will either drift away from God or make your spouse a functional god. The dating world, however, is not the place to be a missionary.
Marry someone who loves Jesus. And spread the gospel as missionaries together. Pull over at the closest gas station and decide what you want in a future spouse. Your list is designed to give you a framework for dating, not be a checklist for it. Yes…this is a primary value. If you love the Cowboys and your future spouse loves the Packers, is it important to work through this before marriage?
No…this is a secondary value.
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Primary values are probably deal breakers. Secondary values are probably not.He Assumed Religion Didn't Matter and Was Totally Wrong! - Tell My Story, Blind Date
If not, let me fill you in. When you pull the trigger, these balls spread over a large range, increasing the chance you hit the target. Five of those should be keepers.
Hopefully one will end up as my spouse. Get to know yourself. Suddenly, when marriage begins, you are asked to flip a switch. Date with a trajectory towards marriage. Let me prove it. God knows it is not good for man to be by himself. Enter Eve, pro-creation, and marriage not necessarily in that order. And the most intimate community on earth is the relationship you will have with your spouse. So, pray for God to send you a spouse. Wait on the Lord.
If you are single, understand it is your responsibility to steward your time well. Singleness is a gift from God, but singleness is not an excuse to be lazy.
It is an opportunity to serve the Lord. Have a community of Christians Around You. But so is marrying a sleezeball.
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When you date, allow the community of people around to speak into your relationship. Your feelings can deceive you. I know too many men and women who refused to listen to people around them, and their prideful arrogance resulted in a failed marriage. Find men and women you trust, and allow them to speak into your relationship.
In the process, I filled my heart and mind with lust, and I secretly struggled with pornography. But the sacrifice is worth the prize. A pure mind might be the greatest gift you can give your future spouse. I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating.
That will never happen. I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us — if we let Him. I have found this to be true in my own life. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. In fact, most of them had many good qualities. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.
In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be. Did those caring, sensitive, funny, godly men really exist?
For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy. But although he said his faith was important to him, attending church and reading the Bible were not high on his priority list.
But I began to notice subtle patterns that bothered me. His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me. Once I took my fingers out of my ears and agreed to truly hear what God had to say, His answer was quite clear.
Does it hurt to end a relationship? Of course it does. After that relationship, I had come to the end of my dating rope.
Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one. It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband.